Depression adversely affects every aspect of our lives – including our relationships – and when one partner is depressed, the relationship may suffer badly. This is a great shame because a good relationship is very therapeutic for somebody with depression.
When we're low we need love, support and closeness more than ever – even if we're not good at showing it.
What is likely to happen if your partner has depression?
Depressed people usually feel withdrawn. They don't feel they can raise enough energy to pursue their normal routine, do things with the family or even notice when their partners are being attentive.
This can quickly lead to the non-depressed partner feeling that he or she is in the way, unwanted, or unloved. It can be easy to misinterpret the low moods as hostility, or as evidence that the depressed person wants out of the relationship.
Frankly, it’s really hard to stay calm and confident when the person you thought you knew is acting strangely and appears to be so unhappy. So if you’re finding your partner’s depression a real pain, try to take heart from the fact that this is natural.